It was clenched, right?
And likely, you’re clenching your butt, your jaw, your whole body more than you realize! It’s ok. Life is…stressful (to say the least). And your body is a brilliant system that is constantly adapting.
AND when it comes to tension…tight muscles may look strong, but they’re not. They’re tense.
Strength cannot be built on tension.
The first step is learning how to release…
BUTT UNCLENCHING DANCE
You don’t need more kegels.
No shade to kegels, but they are incomplete. Plus, doing more kegels is just going to make matters worse.
And don’t even get me started on “just relax” and “have a glass of wine” as a solution. If you’ve ever had an anxiety attack and someone told you to “calm down” you know it’s not only ineffective, it makes everything worse! It’s the same with your body because… it’s all connected.
So please, release your kegel, unclench your butt, and keep reading.
The answer here isn’t MORE of anything. The answer is doing something different.
You’ve been doing exactly what you were told, doing everything “right,” yet your body still feels guarded and constantly on alert.
Your body is begging for new input, new stimulation, a new approach that includes stability, safety, and consent. Consent from yourself to yourself.
It’s time to stop pushing harder and start observing and receiving more.
Sounds sexy, right?
I wasn’t going to go there, but here we are!
Tense muscles are tense. The range of motion is small.
Healthy muscles can fully contract AND fully release giving you a wide range of motion.
This applies to squats, downward dog, and orgasms.
Stay with me.
An orgasm is a build up of tension followed by a rhythmic release.
If you have a wide range of motion to build lots of tension and then release ALL of it, that’s…a good time.
And if you don’t? Well, I’ll just say that leaves a lot of room for improvement and potential release.
You can go ahead and start now. Unclench your butt and let is goooooooooo to build a body you trust to contract, release, and respond with confidence.
WELCOME TO
Unclenched
Your path to stronger muscles, better sex, and confident sneezes.
I read a book with my six-year-old about flexible thinking. The book uses an analogy that I love:
The flexible palm tree and the rigid oak tree.
The rigid oak tree is a body of compensation. It is rigid, thick, and proud. It stands its ground with fewer thick rigid roots driving into the ground. Until the storm is too strong. Then, because it cannot bend, it snaps. It loses branches. It breaks under the pressure.
Sort of like your pelvic floor giving up when you jump or sneeze and pee yourself…
The flexible palm tree is biotensegrity in action. It is lean and agile. When hurricane force winds hit, it bends nearly to the ground utilizing the many thin, deep, expansive network of roots. Its structural integrity allows it to absorb the stress, recover its shape, and stay standing long after the oak has fallen.
This kind of flexibility and range of motion is what allows you to sneeze, jump, and orgasm without peeing yourself…
It may look vulnerable, but it’s
actually invincible.
In my work, I see so many high performers training like oak trees. They build rigid CORE STRENGTH that is actually a collection of clenching and tensing which ends up leaking power all over the studio floor. They are “strong” until real life stress hits. Just like the rigid oak tree. They snap with an injury or burnout.
My goal for you is to be like the flexible palm tree.
You don’t build strength by becoming rigid.
You build strength by increasing your capacity and adaptability. And when you center the pelvic floor, you get to create a body (and mind) that can sway with the demands of your career, your sport, or your life without breaking.
Strength without agility is just a countdown to a breakdown.
Live, lift, and laugh with a body
that responds instead of reacts.
I mean, who doesn’t want stronger muscles, better sex, and confident sneezes?
It’s time to build a body you trust to contract, release, and respond with confidence.
What’s Included:
Online Programming
Six weeks of self guided education and movement to increase your range of motion and unclench your body.Neuromuscular Retraining
Utilizing reciprocal inhibition, you will release tight, clenched muscles by engaging opposing muscles.Companion Guide
Track your progress throughout the program and see how releasing muscles and strategically doing “less” instead of “more” leads to the results you want.BONUS #1 | Kickoff Party with Alissa!
Meet your new Unclenched friends virtually! We will do some moves, set some intentions, and prepare for the possibilities that come with unclenching and releasing.BONUS #2 | Closing Party with Alissa
Celebrate with your Unclenched friends! We can share our progress, inspire, and be inspired together to keep moving forward Unclenched!If you want real strength that comes from a functional range of motion, not a pattern clenching and building tension on top of tensions and calling it strength…
Join Unclenched and start on your path to stronger muscles, better sex, and confident sneezes.
Receipts
Here’s what past clients have to say
Alissa has legitimately changed my life. Our work together finally got my plantar fasciitis under control; I went from limping when I walked a short distance to running a 10k and then a half marathon! – Amanda Mayer Esq
I now hate everyone except for you, Alissa. I literally can’t do any other workout videos – Abby Rasminsky, author and professor
I realized after a recent cold I no longer pee every time I cough! I don’t leak at all. Ever! How did you make this happen? And when?! – Amy Nelson Esq
Alissa is on her own level. Alissa doesn’t just cue exercises; she demonstrates an uncanny ability to see the compensatory patterns and misalignment within a client’s body. Her precision in queuing and her focus on the intention and deep connection of movement are masterful. Alissa’s method is the necessary bridge to sustained well-being. – Simi Botic Esq
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I didn’t just study elite performance,
I live it
I built my career in environments where showing up at a high level wasn’t optional; eight shows a week, high expectations, and zero room for burnout. That experience shaped how I work now: making sure high performers train to meet demand consistently without breaking down.
I’m talking athletes, clinicians, and leaders who need to handle pressure, complexity, and sustained output without missing a beat. And make it look easy while doing it (hair toss).
I focus on what most performance models ignore: integration.
By taking the individual parts of your body and making them work together as a whole. Because your whole body is connected. Not in that wellness BS way, like in a science way.
This is why I utilize the classical Pilates method because working with springs connects all of your movements. An exercise may seem like it’s all about your legs, but suddenly your back is stretching and your abs are on fire as if…the body is one unified system. Because it is!
My classical movement training paired with my extensive clinical knowledge and lived experience allows me to bridge the gap between acute injury and sustained performance.
Because sustainability is a performance metric.
I believe empowering people in their bodies, and in their clinical reasoning, is an act of leadership.
“Butt… I have questions, Alissa!”
AND I’ve got answers!
Clenching feels like safety. It feels like you have control. You’re manually holding the “on” switch so the lights don’t go out. But bracing like this is actually a power leak. It’s a waste of energy for tension trying to act like strength.
When you’re always “on,” you have no place to go when real stress hits.
By learning to release, you aren’t losing control; you’re restoring balance. You’re trading a brittle, rigid core for a responsive suspension system that responds appropriately to stress.
Please, for the love of your undercarriage, put the kegels down. If you’re reading this, your problem isn’t that you don’t know how to squeeze, it’s that you don’t know how to unsqueeze.
Healthy muscles can contract AND release.
Adding more kegels to a hypertonic, guarded pelvic floor is like trying to fix a jammed door by slamming it harder. It doesn’t work, and it usually breaks the hinge. This program is about the 360° integration of the pelvic floor into global movement.
If you think breathing is just breathing, you’ve never used it to stabilize your body or manage hurricane level life stress. While breath is one of the tools in this program, this is a full system neuromuscular retraining program. (Did I nerd out too hard there?) We are using movement, reciprocal inhibition (look it up, it’s cool science), and observation to change the way your brain communicates with your body and vice versa.
Yes! And you should! The goal is to take the mobility and release that you find in Unclenched and apply it to all of your movement practices! You’ll find that when you stop only bracing in your workouts and start using your new wider range of motion and mobility, you’ll actually lift heavier and move faster because you’re no longer fighting your own tension.
I’ve been doing this for a DECADE (see what I did there?), and I can tell you that while 10 years of tension and guarding won’t disappear in an hour, your nervous system is incredibly fast at learning safety. Once your body realizes it has permission to release without losing control, the shift happens quickly. We aren’t just breathing and stretching; we are changing your body’s default setting from HIGH ALERT to high performance.
Unclench
Your Butt!
Life is hard enough! Let yourself live a little with two, independent, individual butt cheeks.
When one woman unclenches her butt, it gives space and permission for others to do the same. Imagine a world without clenched cheeks where butts are responsive and capable. You can help build this world and start by joining Unclenched.